Envy: it lures you into a trap leaving you wishing you were blessed in the same way as another person, doesn’t it? In the technology crazed world of 2016, it can be easy for a simple Facebook post or Instagram selfie to leave you discontent with your own life and wanting to be in someone else’s shoes. Weddings, babies, job promotions…and that’s just “normal” social media – the fitness world takes it even further.
Ever scroll through one of those perfect “fit-stagrams?” You know the ones— 200K followers, perfectly filtered photos of insanely toned booties, and boasting captions about squats and how to build a better butt? We become so mesmerized with these people that all of a sudden your thumb is glued to your phone scrolling back to 2014 looking at pictures of a complete stranger.
Have you ever really thought about how unhealthy this can be to your mental health? Detrimental, really. Suddenly, that gym selfie you took yesterday seems like nothing in comparison to these pictures you’re scrolling through. Thought you were making progress on your weight loss journey? Nope, not anymore! Now you’re in your head picking apart your flaws and putting yourself down.
Body envy can be such a severe issue that it can actually push you away from your goals and lead to disordered eating, unhealthy exercise behaviors and an overall obsession with body image in general. Wishing you had someone else’s abs isn’t motivating, it’s discouraging.
It’s an easy trap to fall into, and with technology forever on the rise – unfortunately it will only become more and more of an issue. So what can we do to make it better?
- Step Away From Social Media
Delete it completely or simply lessen your social media presence. Yup, it’s hard – but bad body image is harder. TV, magazines and social media all portray an unrealistic standard about what body image should look like. Make a deal with yourself that you’ll only check your social media within a certain time period of the day…do it and FORGET ABOUT IT. Mindlessly scrolling gets your mind racing and can only lead to negative thoughts.
- Practice Safe Self-Talk
“Comparison is the thief of all joy.” Stop comparing yourself to others, it only leads to dissatisfaction with yourself. Focus on you, the amazing goals you’ve set for yourself, and what you’re going to do to get there. Then make it happen!
- Redirect Your Focus On What Really Matters
When you focus your attention on the real world instead of what’s behind the screen of a smartphone, it becomes easier to spend your time and energy on things that really matter. Keep busy, have scheduled plans, and stay engaged in activities that don’t include Facebook stalking and spending idle time on social media!
- Work On Your Confidence and Self-Worth
If the comparison game is doing a serious number on your confidence, you need to get to the root of the problem and where this is stemming from. The healthiest place to be is one where you no longer feel the need to measure yourself in comparison to anyone else. This can be done in many ways:
- Spend time on your relationships: it can be easy to take the relationships we have for granted when we’re sucked into our phones and computer screens. Try to remember that your real life relationships are more important than any virtual one. Spend time with the people that love and care about you, and forget about the number of likes you’re getting on your most recent Facebook post.
- Treat your body well: we all sometimes lack the motivation needed to get in a good workout or prep a healthy meal…but DO IT ANYWAY. This means doing something active every day, even if only for 30 minutes. Make healthy meal choices so you’re not constantly snacking on junk. How we treat our bodies is a direct reflection of our moods and self-worth – if you treat it like junk, you will feel like junk.
Body envy and comparison is a dangerous game to play. When it comes down to it, in order to make a change, we have to find a way to live in a world where our self-worth isn’t measured by the amount of likes we get on a picture. Scroll past the posts that breed negativity and remind yourself to love and care for the body you were given. Learn to work on yourself mentally, realize all you bring to this world, and you’ll become stronger from the inside out.
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